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As I said in the comments on undisturbed.org - not everyone's high school was the same. When people talk about their experiences in high school being bad - it may have been bad for entirely different reasons than you realize.

When I tell my husband that someone is acting like they were in high school - he always looks at me like I'm from mars because in HIS high school people were a WHOLE lot more mature than in mine.

I'm going to write more about it at some point because I hope it'll shed light for some people who don't understand - but a quick summary: My high school was in a really rich area. Despite the money, a lot of parents drank, did drugs, and seriously abused their kids. But everyone pretended it wasn't happening.

These kids came into school and were total bullies. If you were their friends (ie. if you did *everything* they told you to), then you didn't get their displaced abuse - if you weren't - oh man... watch out!! It wasn't until much later in my life when I DID find out the reasons these kids did what they did (they were abused at home - so they abused others in school because it was the only place they could feel in control)...

Sadly - there WERE and ARE a lot of high schools like that. Not everyone had an *imaginery* hell.

¤ ¤ credit: Jennifer | 01.02.03 at 10:56 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Love that movie! Your post is timely too, I stayed up til nearly 2am watching it on the telly last night. Dubbed to hell though it's just not quite the same...

¤ ¤ credit: Heather | 01.02.03 at 12:23 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I never did understand that movie. Then again, I don't understand movies period. That's why I don't watch them.

¤ ¤ credit: Patty | 01.02.03 at 12:36 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Like I also said at -e-'s, I used to frequent a message board where I was considered to be one of the "in crowd" and I took a lot of flak for it, too. So I can understand what you're feeling.

The flak I took is probably the biggest reason why I tend to stay in the shadows and lurk a lot now. I don't want to have to deal with all that again because in some ways it hurt and in other ways it was just so ridiculous.

But I do have to say that when you come across a blog, a forum, whatever it may be, that is well-established and has a fairly tight group of readers and participants, it can be intimidating at first simply because they do seem so tight and close. Some people just jump right in and say hi, but others feel the need to ridicule and be trolls instead because they see this tight group and they don't think that they'll be welcome, even though they've never jumped right in.

It's intimidating because you don't know if they'll welcome you, ignore you, or tell you to get lost. But you don't know unless you take the chance and jump in.

¤ ¤ credit: Kathy | 01.02.03 at 12:40 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

"Oh yeah. See, all these movies take place in a
town called Shermer, in Illinois. And there's all
this fine bush running around, and we could kick
all the dudes' asses because they're all whiney
pussies. Except Judd Nelson - he was harsh. But
best of all, there was no one selling weed. So I
says to Silent Bob "Man, we could live phat if we
were the blunt-connection in Shermer, Illinois!"
So we collected some cash we were owed, and caught
a bus. But when we got here, you know what we found out? There is no Shermer in Illinois. What kind of shit is that?! Fucking movies are bullshit!"

Even Jay knows about the Holy Trilogy.

¤ ¤ credit: Lunchbox | 01.02.03 at 12:53 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Well you wouldn't know. See you don't belong so you just have to dump all over it.

¤ ¤ credit: Claire | 01.02.03 at 01:49 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

"Jules, y'know, honey... this isn't real. You know what it is? It's St. Elmo's Fire. Electric flashes of light that appear in dark skies out of nowhere. Sailors would guide entire journies by it, but the joke was on them...there was no fire. There was't even a St. Elmo. They made it up. They made it up because they thought they needed it to keep them going when times got tough, just like you're making up all of this. We're all going through this. It's our time at the edge."

¤ ¤ credit: Ruthie | 01.02.03 at 02:02 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

"Excuse me for being a virgin. I'm sorry." I blame it on the fact that "my home-life is unsatisfying". Besides, shouldn't you "show Dick some respect"?

I could keep going, but "I hate it! I hate having to go along with everything my friends say".

"Being bad feels pretty good, huh?"

err, that was lame, but you brought back the memories ... ;)

¤ ¤ credit: jewdez | 01.02.03 at 02:28 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Ya know Judez, "I wanna be just like you. I figure all I need is a lobotomy and some tights." :P

Well my take on the Breakfast Club was it was five stereotypical characters. At first I saw John Bender, and I was like "Aw yeah, what an obnoxious smartass... that's me!", then I saw Brian and could relate...

By the end of the movie, you see a little bit of all of them in you.

But I generally avoid brat pack movies like the plague. But then Ruthie mentioned "St. Elmo's Fire" up there. Rob Lowe... ohhhh!
(Oh God. Did I say that out loud????)

¤ ¤ credit: -e- | 01.02.03 at 02:43 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I don't wear tights. I wear the required uniform.
I'm sooo popular, everyone loves me.
Ok, I quit. I know this movie ooh too well :)
You see, I am not afraid to admit I am a brat-pack-'oholic.

¤ ¤ credit: jewdez | 01.02.03 at 03:13 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Screws fall out all the time.
It's not a perfect world.

¤ ¤ credit: -e- | 01.02.03 at 03:47 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

For a man who generally avoid brat pack movies like the plague, you sure can keep up with those lines, eh?. Come out of the closet -e-, and admit -- you're a bratpack whore ;)

¤ ¤ credit: jewdez | 01.02.03 at 04:03 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

jewdez -- this information cannot leave this room, ok? It would devastate -e-'s reputation as a dude.

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 01.02.03 at 04:14 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

lol :) shhh!
i'm not telling anyone

¤ ¤ credit: jewdez | 01.02.03 at 04:36 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Vernon : What if your dope was on fire?
Bender : That's impossible sir it's in Johnsons underwear!

hahahhahahahah that line gets me everytime......

Vernon: Any questions
Bender: Yeah I have a question. Does Barry Manilow know you raid his wardrobe?

hahahhahahahah

¤ ¤ credit: claire | 01.02.03 at 04:44 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'm sure lot of guys find Rob Lowe attractive, listen to Liza Minelli, Streisand, and...

Yeah, what Robyn said, Jewdez! :p

In conclusion, Robyn...
If you're not making enemies... you're not making a difference. ®

¤ ¤ credit: -e- | 01.02.03 at 04:59 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I say la - la la la la - la la la la - la la - la la - la la la -- la la.....

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 01.02.03 at 05:02 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I get to be the basket case! I get to be the basket case! And we *all* know you're the princess! ;) *giggle*

Hope you're feeling better soon! It must have been all that New Year's kissin' going on!

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 01.02.03 at 05:54 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

see..if you are the basket case...and Robyn is the princess...then there aren't any other girls. I apparently, in HS, existed in my only little world. Very much like now, but without all the teen angst.

¤ ¤ credit: Ruthie | 01.02.03 at 11:59 PM | link--this ¤ ¤