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Posted: 07.24.2002
This used to be my playground
I just did a quick look-see over my entries from the last couple of weeks, and I noticed very little of the content has been about "me". I'm not quite sure why that is -- other than I seem to meet myself sitting down and getting back up out of this computer chair most days. Todd has pretty much taken over my iBook, as I do most of my design work on his PC (better video card and better version of Photoshop). Sigh.

I really envy him being able to punch out at 5:30 each day. When he turns that computer off, his work e-mail program shuts down with it. I don't have that luxury. Don't get me wrong -- I'm not complaining about the many benefits of "working from home". And I'm definitely not complaining about finally having work to do from home. It's just been really hard for me to find that balance of when to work and when to play when not staring at set 9-5 schedule. And also when to be a wife, and when to make the checkbook seem not so emtpy...

We're starting on a big joint-project tonight that I'm not yet at liberty to discuss (and no, for the 1,000,000th time this is also not baby related). That's going to be an even bigger drain on the little "free" time I already have. It's something I'm very excited about. I'm just trying to figure out what is going to give in its place.

I guess there's also a bit of guilt over wanting to do stuff for others, and finding myself in the position for the first time in six years of having to say "no" or "could you please ask _____ instead". I'm not used to telling people no. It's just not in my nature. Even Todd is paying the price. He's had an image he'd like made into a design for a couple of weeks now, in addition to skinning his site, and I just haven't had the time. What used to be "play" for me is now anything but... I don't want to "work" when I'm not working. It would be like me asking him to call customers after dinner if he wouldn't mind. Don't get me wrong -- he definitely understands and isn't complaining in the slightest. I just feel bad having to put him off, too.

So I guess what I'm saying is: If I still owe you e-mail, I'm sorry. If I've had to tell you "no" recently, I'm sorry. If you're stupid enough to elect this man for a second term, well, I'm not sorry. You're a moron. You shall now return to your regularly scheduled hooters...

Hey boy take a look at me...let me dirty up your mind...

Robyn, we love you. I can't even imagine how hard it is to not leave the office. And you're a lucky one to have a great guy like Todd, who's even luckier to have you.

So you say "no" when you need to, and make sure you play like we did the other weekend.

Don't make me come down there to ensure you have fun!

¤ ¤ credit: annessa | 07.24.02 at 08:08 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

WHAT?! you're having a baby!? hehehe Just kidding.

¤ ¤ credit: NastyMike | 07.24.02 at 08:17 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'm counting on it Annessa! And that's it Mike. I'm coming over to smack you now! Oh wait, you'd probably like that. That was your goal all along, huh? ;-p

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 07.24.02 at 08:18 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

yes. spank me. spanke me haaaaard. ;)

¤ ¤ credit: NastyMike | 07.24.02 at 08:24 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'd have a hard time shutting off as well. I'd end up working 24/7 I just know it.

Hey now...don't mess with my man Dubya!

¤ ¤ credit: Julie | 07.24.02 at 08:54 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

You work WAY too hard girl. I know that for a fact. And you SHOULD learn to say NO more often -- hint hint!!! :) Your friends love you and understand.

¤ ¤ credit: Christi | 07.24.02 at 08:54 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Hey Robyn---Just say no. It's the best advice ever! Good luck with the "project!". I'm here if you need anything, just as you have *always* been for me. Love you!

¤ ¤ credit: Joy | 07.24.02 at 09:25 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I agree, Christi. Chica, you need to enter a twelve step program to learn to say "no". You are just too nice :) That "project" will pay itself off, once you're finished. Just think of the goal...

¤ ¤ credit: Ashley | 07.24.02 at 09:27 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Well, you haven't had to tell me "No", and you don't owe me an email. But I am here to tell you that I read your blog every single day and you are a busy woman. You need to try your best to just know when to say when! I used to have a job - outside of home - that took about 18 hours a day out of me. My husband never complained, but I knew it wasn't fair to him, or us. I don't work there anymore. Now, life is good. Work is great, but work comes and goes. Its all about choices baby!

¤ ¤ credit: Camille | 07.24.02 at 09:50 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Ashley, it was all downhill after I only got 43% bitch.

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 07.24.02 at 10:23 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Saying no is nothing to apologize for. I'm learning that self-care is NOT the same as self-centered.

I also work from home and it is NOT easy to find a balance. I've only recently come up with a plan that involves a schedule so that everyone is happy and everything gets done. Now to just follow that schedule on a regular basis...

¤ ¤ credit: Amy | 07.24.02 at 11:37 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I work from home too, and it's easy for me. When my partner gets home, he kicks me off the computer! Problem solved. I can't get on it when he's home even if I want to .....

¤ ¤ credit: Jessica Parker | 07.25.02 at 12:23 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Sometimes "me time" is definitely called for. :)

¤ ¤ credit: Karen | 07.25.02 at 01:42 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

[insert Republican rant here that I don't feel like typing]

¤ ¤ credit: jesse | 07.25.02 at 12:10 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Listen to your friends Robyn, marriage and Todd definately comes first. If you keep pouring from the proverbial pitcher and don't stop to refill it sometimes---you end up with an empty pitcher. Stop to smell the roses and refill that pitcher. And, KEEP TODD HAPPY, then you'll be happier as a result. (right Todd? see your mother-in-law loves ya. )

¤ ¤ credit: Robyn's Mama | 07.25.02 at 01:02 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I just wanted to leave you hugs. You inspire me, every day, and I know that somedays are harder than others, but I think that in the end, you have Todd, and that really is what counts. If I can ever do anything to help you or just chat to make you smile, you know I'm here. :) {{{{{hugs}}}}}}

¤ ¤ credit: kristine | 07.25.02 at 05:58 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I definitely agree with everyone else. Don't worry about saying "yes" to everyone. Anyone who knows you completely understands what a wonderful person you are and shouldn't be offended if you just can't do what they need. :)

¤ ¤ credit: ste | 07.26.02 at 08:46 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

You don't owe me anything.
Just pinged you. Was it good for you as it was for me?

¤ ¤ credit: Shelli | 07.28.02 at 11:42 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

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