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Posted: 06.12.2002
Don't let it bring you down
Today, errrr yesterday (which is still today to me), was quite literally hell. Nothing went right with the project I was working on. By 11 p.m. Todd decided I'd had enough. He dropped Taco Bell to-go (yes, it took me that long to stop for dinner) and an Orange Hooch in my lap. And then...he made my day... After watching me pull more 5 a.m.'ers in recent history than back when I was in college, he brought up a very interesting fact I had neglected to recall. Saturday is June 15th -- the two-year anniversary of the day I was sliced, diced and julienne fried -- all in the name of trying to have a baby. That day, and each June 15th since, has been marked on the calendar as "Pamper Robyn Silly Day".

So my wonderful husband announced that this year he's taking me to Sephora in Orlando! And once the sun has started climbing back down the horizon, over to Cocoa Beach on the east coast (and back here again, too). I think I can manage to get through the rest of the week now! No, no. You can't have him. He's mine!



Hey boy take a look at me...let me dirty up your mind...



One of the best things you can have when you're dealing with infertility is a husband that "gets it." Sounds like you've got one. Hold on tight!

Heidi and I dealt with/are still dealing with infertility. I am so sorry to hear you folks are there too. We did drugs, surgery, insemination, and even acupuncture (yow!) I'm not sure I "got it" as much as Todd seems to, but I came around eventually.

Do you get irritated by all the well-meaning advice? My favorite is "stop trying so hard and it'll just happen." Arrgh. Anyway, no advice from me, but we know something of where you've been and feel for you.

As a postscript, Heidi and I are dealing with our infertility by fostering and adopting drug-exposed babies. Our "scratch-and-dent" approach to growing our family has given us a lotta joy in the persons of Mr. Freahpants and Petunia, whom we are going to adopt this summer. Worked for us anyway.

¤ ¤ credit: Cody Clark | 06.12.02 at 01:19 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

you two are both so lucky. you're so perfect together.

oh, and what size shoe do you wear? i saw some cute flipflops today at the moa that were screaming your name.

¤ ¤ credit: redsugar | 06.12.02 at 01:24 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I've changed my mind on human cloning. I now think it's a great idea, and we should start by cloning me my own Todd to blog away my golden years with.

¤ ¤ credit: jamese/erynn | 06.12.02 at 01:28 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Wow, I never knew. I totally understand where you've been as I've been there too, through all of it. I only wish I was so lucky to have had a Todd of my own at the time. We just didn't make it. The good thing through all of this is that yes, you guys will make kickass parents someday!!

¤ ¤ credit: Statia | 06.12.02 at 02:24 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

You've got a hell of a nice guy there! Enjoy your day!

¤ ¤ credit: C.C. | 06.12.02 at 04:17 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Cody, or: "My friends were having trouble and quit trying and ended up pregnant the very next month!".

"Well that's all well and good for them, but we quit trying over six months ago and we're in the very same place...so thanks. Go away now." :-)

There's also another favorite of mine... "Dick and Jane adopted a baby and got pregnant the very next month. So be careful when you consider it!"

"Gee, thanks. I'll be sure to keep that in mind!"

I'm sorry that you, your wife, and Statia, have had to ride the roller coaster, too. Builds character -- but there are times I wish I didn't have (or need) so much of it.

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 06.12.02 at 04:32 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Got a best friend going through this situation. Just had to have huge tumors removed from her uterus. Next is trying IVF, but they can't afford to try too much. I just try to listen and give her my support. I hope this is the right thing to do. If it isn't -- tell me.

I have another long time friend that is also having trouble. So I could use advice on how to help or not. I definitely don't want to annoy or piss anyone.

¤ ¤ credit: meryl | 06.12.02 at 09:04 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I've been reading your blog since I started my own just a few months ago and truly think you and Todd are two wonderful people and it is obvious how much you both love each other. I hope you guys have the best weekend ever!

¤ ¤ credit: Camille | 06.12.02 at 10:39 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Been there done that! After finding out I had Poly-cystic Ovarian Syndrome when I was 16 I was told I may never have kids. At that time I wasn't thinking about kids. Then I met my ex-husband at 19. Everything suddenly changed after being with each other for 4 years, it was true I could NOT have kids. I had been on every fertility drug out there. Nothing was wrong with him, it was me. I can't tell you how many laproscopic surgeries I have had. My Belly button looks like a warzone ;)We split, some of it having to do with me not having kids, a lot of it not lol...

So anyways, I met my husband now, and I told him up front I can't have kids..that's the end of it..He fully understood, and was fine with the idea. Four months after dating I got a lovely surprise..I was pregnant. It was a shocker! Honestly I think because I wasn't thinking of having a baby, I was relaxed and everything else and it just happened...After she was born, a month later..pregnant again..a boy this time. We tried for a third, but it was a no go. I can't get pregnant at all anymore. The PCOS is back in full attack mode. Oh, and my ex-husband? He has 2 boys of his own now.

Whoa I talk errrrr..type way too much...just know that I know what you're going through, and it totally sucks. I often feel guilty for having my kids when so many people can't =(

¤ ¤ credit: Dania | 06.12.02 at 11:26 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Dania,

Secondary infertility is a double whammy, ain't it? You don't get much sympathy because you got you some kids of your own, but the pain of infertility is still there.

We tried to have more after Girlzilla, but the doctors said no dice. Turns out they've been right.

Anyway, don't feel guilty for enjoying the kids you have. And don't feel like a wuss for your feelings about infertility either. Having a kid by some extraordinary grace of God doesn't always make the pain of infertility go away. It sure didn't for us.

Cody

¤ ¤ credit: Cody Clark | 06.13.02 at 03:45 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

It amazes me how many people are going through this. You don't even begin to realize it until you're there. It's so sad too because these are the people that would appreciate a child so much.

I enjoy my "kids" (black labs) very much. I'm not ashamed to admit that I have professional pics taken of them (alright, really only first one, you know how the second child never has any pictures, never leaves the house etc.) and that they get spoiled rotten at Christmas!! People think I'm pathetic, I don't care! Those are the people that go, "Oh, I could just sneeze and get pregnant." They will never understand.

Robyn - having that much character is such a great quality. It sucks that you have to go through everything you go through to get that character, but it totally makes up who you are. How many people would let their husbands post pics of them in nothing but a laptop?? heehee!

¤ ¤ credit: statia | 06.13.02 at 02:02 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Finally had time to focus and read (unlike my sleepy haze last night when I got in from Phoenix!) Just wanted to let you know that I hope you two are having a wonderful time! Todd's the best ... which is great, because you deserve nothing less. :)

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 06.15.02 at 01:36 PM | link--this ¤ ¤




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