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Posted: 02.10.2002
And you can speak your mind but not on my time
You know, I've sat here for the last couple of days watching two bloggers I've really come to respect (and enjoy) getting flamed to high heaven for stupid, petty things. Things the majority of their visitors have found frickin' hysterical. And quite frankly, I'm sick of it. I guess I should count myself pretty lucky that I haven't suffered the same fate here at my own blog...yet. I'm strong-willed. I have a short-temper. I'm liberal. I can be bitchy. I'm opinionated. My brand of humor may not not be your bag o' tea. That's fine. I would just politely tell you what I tell most of the people that surf on into my anti-P. Diddy site -- your browser has a back button for a reason. Don't be afraid to use it.

Because I guarantee you, if you came into my house and spouted off some of the things I've read in this couple's comments, I would not-so-politely show you the door. If you don't like the show that's on our TV, if you don't want to watch the same movie we do, or if the jokes we happen to crack offend -- you don't have to stay here. But yet because the internet is "anonymous" people say and do things in online situations they might normally not do in real life. This can be good -- because you don't have to be "shy" when hidden behind a monitor vs. staring at someone face-to-face. And I'd pretty much bet money on the fact some of the best writing online stems from that very fact... But this can be bad, because tact and manners are sometimes checked at the computer room door. Granted, as with just about anything in life, if you put it up on the public chopping block you can expect to see others take issue with it eventually. But where does that fine line start and end when it comes to just what it is -- and isn't -- ok to say to someone in regards to their life and the way they live it? (Unless you happen to be their spouse or parent...)

And taking this issue even further...as I mentioned elsewhere today...why do people think it's ok to correct your memories or opinions in your blog (an online journal), when they wouldn't dare take a red-ink pen to your paper-counterpart? No I don't mean minor little "don't you mean" corrections. I mean going to someone else's site and trying to reconstruct their life, and their history, the way you see fit. If they're happy -- if their spouse is happy -- if almost all of the people around them are happy (and amused) -- then what business is it of yours? If you don't enjoy what you see/read -- move on. There are blogs in every shape and form on the internet. I can pretty much guarantee you that with a few clicks of the mouse you'll find one more suited to your tastes if you'll just bother to take the time to look.

This entry isn't even about me -- or anything pertaining to my own blog and writing. But one day it might be... And quite frankly, I've been biting my lip 'til it's started to bleed.

Hey boy take a look at me...let me dirty up your mind...

*You* are the sexy bitch.

¤ ¤ credit: Sekimori | 02.10.02 at 02:12 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Some people haven't got anything better to do than try to stir up controversy where it isn't warranted and where their presence is unwanted. Little people, little lives, little minds. What can we do?

¤ ¤ credit: Dreama | 02.10.02 at 02:46 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Sell their names to telemarketers? ;-)

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 02.10.02 at 02:50 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Robyn you rock girlfriend :) I love hearing what you have to say :) Who in the world deemed it necessary to agree with everyone? How arrogant is it to go to someone's blog and expect them to say what you "feel" is appropriate? I say move on or shut up :) I have very strong feelings about alot of issues and make no apologies for any of them. If I am enlightened enough to change my views then Thanks be to the person who showed me the "light" otherwise take me as I am baby!!! :)
Have a good one

¤ ¤ credit: Cheyenne | 02.10.02 at 05:56 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I know what you mean! My ex husband "hangs out" at my blog. Although it's been practically 5 years since we've been together. I make subtle hints about him, or something I did, that was obviously with him. Hell I was with him for 6 bloody years! He will email me and tell me take it off so that his "friendwithbenefits" doesn't read it herself...phhhht whatever.

He says people will know it's him i'm talking about. Ya..and the WHOLE internet knows who he is *rolling my eyes* I've even been nice and called him my ex-boyfriend, when he was my ex-husband because he hasn't told his whatever she is that he was actually married to me....

¤ ¤ credit: Dania | 02.10.02 at 11:30 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

i nearly shut down my journal because my ex flatmate was reading it and leaving anon. comments which weren't true! so i agree with what you say. people who flame others for being themselves are idiots, and cowards.

¤ ¤ credit: Kathryn | 02.10.02 at 12:37 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'm thinking of going anonymous. It just feels like so much fun.....

¤ ¤ credit: hoopty | 02.10.02 at 12:45 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

right! if you don't like what you see, hear or read, change the station, pick up the remote, or find another site. i've been the lucky recipient of some free, yet unsolicited psychiatric analysis the last few days from one of my readers. apparently i have a lot of issues to work out.

¤ ¤ credit: mike | 02.10.02 at 01:38 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I agree...some people can be so stupid!

My blog is fairly new, and so far I have gotten only nice comments...haven't had to nuke anyone yet. But I've not been immune to idiots. I once got an e-mail from some bimbo who visited my cat website, who told me all about how she hated cats, and about how pathetic I was for having nine cats, and creating a site about them. I was like, if it's so pathetic, you dumb bitch, then why were you looking at it? If you hate cats that much, then how did you end up at a cat website in the first place?

BTW, Robyn...I LOVE your anti-Puff website...reading all the hate mail and your responses to it gives me a good laugh. I particularly enjoy laughing at the fact that most of this hate mail is riddled with swear words, as well as spelling and grammatical errors! :-) Shows you how high their I.Q.'s are!

¤ ¤ credit: Christine M. | 02.10.02 at 02:13 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I really need to go in and do a 2002 Puffy update, Christine! It's just something I have to brace myself for...a whole day of idiocy... Here's a new one I just got today to wet your whistle though!

"i think your a stupid fag. your probly just jealous that hes so joy and you are such an ugly, lonely feral. Oh well, if you think you are so shit hot- keep on telling yourself that because you are the only one who does. Catya!"

Ahhhh...wisdom for the ages right there!

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 02.10.02 at 02:17 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I really don't know what is wrong with some people. We all are entitled to our opinions and sometimes we may say things that others don't agree with, but what's the need for bitching all the time. This is how I think: If you don't have ANYTHING good to say, don't say anything. Some people need to learn to move on and stop taking this blogging business so seriosly. You made a good point, Robyn.

¤ ¤ credit: Beatriz | 02.10.02 at 03:47 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Wonderful.*insert sarcasm here* Some people just have nothing better to do then to put others down. It's a wonder I still have faith that that humanity will sort itself out one day and that we will be less harsh in judging others. [Sorry about that, but it really frustrates me when people feel the need to judge others. Was about to add more but it will turn into along rant...]

*gaffaw* to the selling of thier names to the telemarketers.

¤ ¤ credit: Munin | 02.10.02 at 05:24 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

You suck and your little dog does too.

Just had to say it. Nothing says A-List like rude things from idiots who don't know better in your comments. Mwuhahahah! Ready to Jell-o Wrestle? Red jello? Or green? *smooch!*

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 02.10.02 at 10:05 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

(Note to the newcomers. I love Robyn so much I proposed to her. Todd is looking forward to the day that his wives all live together.)

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 02.10.02 at 10:06 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Christine -- definitely green with St. Paddy's coming up! (My maiden name wasn't O'Rourke for nothin'!) Although all fall jello-wrestling is red. Gee, I wonder why? ;-p

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 02.10.02 at 10:31 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

They got the gold! They got the gold! Both couples now have the gold!

¤ ¤ credit: Meryl | 02.15.02 at 02:21 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

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