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Posted: 05.01.2002
If you are confused, check with the sun
I've noticed interesting dialogue in blogs and comments today about being afraid and/or leery of commenting in certain blogs because the site visitor is either too shy, too embarrassed, or too intimidated by the "cliquish" atmosphere already established in the blog.

If that's the case with any of you out there *peers around the room* speak up! Don't be afraid. It only hurts the first time...I promise. Actually, I wouldn't even say it "hurts". It's more like that funny feeling you get while climbing the rope in gym class.

I've tripped in front of a large group of people. I've had lipstick in my teeth. I've left the ladies room with toilet paper stuck to my shoe. I've belched quite loudly at an inappropriate time. And all along, I've laughed at myself while doing so.

So don't be shy. We have ways of making you talk...
And oh yeah -- howdy!

Hey boy take a look at me...let me dirty up your mind...

i've been giving this a lot of thought lately, too. on one hand, i feel like that shy, intimidated visitor. while i enjoy visiting, i don't comment or "leave my mark" so to speak, because i feel like i don't have anything worthwhile to say, or i'm socially inept and easily intimidated by the cliques who visit certain blogs. on the other hand, i hope i have not, and never will, make other people feel unwelcome in my webhome, or seem elitist. after some speculation, i've concluded that each person will be on both sides of the fence at least some of the time, depending on their levels of social comfort, etc. i think occasional messages of welcome really do help, though. ie: spawned this horrendously bookish comment from me, an otherwise shadowy lurker. :)

¤ ¤ credit: bran-O-phelia | 05.01.02 at 01:32 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Yay -- it worked! And I love it when you comment, m'dear! ;-)

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 05.01.02 at 01:38 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

My first time here didn't hurt. Robyn is gentle and kind with virgin commentors. ;)

¤ ¤ credit: Linh | 05.01.02 at 02:02 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Isn't it funny how the comments that some people think of as "silly" are normally the ones that TOTALLY make your day? I *love* comments! (My other thought on this? Well, if I didn't want people to leave comments I wouldn't give them the option! LOL!)

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 05.01.02 at 02:20 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I hope that people aren't afraid to comment on my blog... I was so concerned with my own fear, I didn't think about what others felt when reading mine! Sheesh! Maybe I need to post a public service announcement sometime! :)

¤ ¤ credit: Susan | 05.01.02 at 02:49 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Most bloggers seem to love comments as long as they aren't obviously malicious. I did stop commenting on one blog though, not because of the blogger, but because their readers seemed very jealous about who was allowed there.

I know sometimes that it's hard to tell what my tone is when I write, and sometimes I'm trying to be funny and it falls flat. I'm not trying to be creepy, though. That's what my new tag line is all about. It's a quote from a comment about me on another blog.

I never feel uncomfortable about commenting here (or on Christine's blog). You ladies rock!

¤ ¤ credit: wKen | 05.01.02 at 03:03 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

And wKen you know if you ever quit commenting here, I'll hunt you down, and well...I can't spill any trade secrets...but believe me, it wouldn't happen a second time. ;-)

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 05.01.02 at 03:09 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

yea yea that's what they all say hee hee :) I love comments and I love leaving comments :) Yep I get sometimes intimidated but it never stops my mouth from running hee hee :)

¤ ¤ credit: gnome-girl | 05.01.02 at 03:21 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I just said something like this on my page, although my page hasn't been around very long, people come to read and lurk and never hi...kinda like I do here lol So Hi, I'm here, I check it often!

¤ ¤ credit: Zoe | 05.01.02 at 06:46 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

And here I was thinking the reason I wasn't getting any comments on my blog is because I wasn't saying anything particularly interesting. Hmmm, maybe that still is the case. ;-)

¤ ¤ credit: Les | 05.01.02 at 07:46 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I love blog comments! It is something so different than instant messengers and email, but it still seems like there is such a real-time conversation happening.

...Or maybe that is just the little elves I keep hearing in my head!

¤ ¤ credit: Stu D. | 05.01.02 at 08:40 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

You know those little toilet seat covers you use in public restrooms? I've left with that hanging out my pants (not once but twice)! You just have to laugh at yourself sometimes.

¤ ¤ credit: sandy | 05.01.02 at 10:15 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Hey, some of us just stop by waiting for more of the "Brown Saga"...it's nice to know I'm not the only one with a love-hate UPS relationship.

¤ ¤ credit: Tracy | 05.01.02 at 10:41 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'm extremely shy in real life, so I can identify with this post. I do feel like there are blog "cliques" and if you leave comments they all look at you like your stupid.

However, I would think that it would be easier to leave comments than say what you wanted to say face to face in a group. So, I suppose I should say "Viva la comments!"

¤ ¤ credit: Mike | 05.01.02 at 11:03 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I think many of us know you'll be checking out our sites to see "who D heck is Dees guy"... and in my case, Im not sure its ready to be "open for business". Ive noticed many bloggers put lots of time and effort into elloquence and political insight, and I talk about chicks and movies... so you know. but then again I can't even ask for the time on the street.

¤ ¤ credit: soulsink | 05.01.02 at 11:13 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Yes, Yes, that is so true. I'm a newbie all around and I found that people were afraid to comment on my site even. No one ever wants to be "the first" either. I think I'm finally over the hump of being afraid to leave my own comments. See.

¤ ¤ credit: Birdie | 05.01.02 at 11:34 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Teehee! That's what I'll do - leave the first comment myself! Yeah! Then everyone else will leave me comments to! :)

¤ ¤ credit: Christine | 05.01.02 at 12:22 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

i started an online journal about two months ago but I have been reading various blogs for quite a while. I usually only comment when I feel like I can add to the post (like, perhaps, right now?)... :) I do "lurk" at some sites, but I've made myself known through comments on most of the ones I read daily.

Also, my host doesn't support blogging software, so until i have time to learn some PHP, I will be without a comments section. :( I would love to have people comment on what I say or help me out with a question, but for now, I can only accept email as feedback.

And finally, some of the best blogs I read daily were found through those people's comments in other blogs! So, if you want people to find you, you have speak up... :) That's all for now, Robyn! :)

¤ ¤ credit: leandra | 05.01.02 at 01:19 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I'll speak for the first time on your blog...

I dig yer site, but the only reason I really come here is to look at Gwen ;o)


¤ ¤ credit: skebrown | 05.01.02 at 01:38 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Cheers all around to those who feels the same way I do sometimes! I posted my thoughts to Christine's blog, and since it took me so long to decide how to say that (!) I'll post it over at mine... with a few embellishments.

There is strength in numbers!!

¤ ¤ credit: Gretchen | 05.01.02 at 02:43 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

You easily have the best pictures on your site. The newbie heart was great.

OH OH!!! I don't know. I need some sleep.......

¤ ¤ credit: C.C. | 05.01.02 at 02:44 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I usually don't comment when there are tons and tons of other comments because I figure whatever I have to say has either a) already been said or b) will get lost in the tremendous response and never read anyway. :o)

¤ ¤ credit: hilary | 05.01.02 at 02:52 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

i read your site daily, i just don't leave comments, that's all. i posted my thoughts to christine's blog too. i just feel like there are blog cliques too though and i do not feel a part of that, i'm too shy.

¤ ¤ credit: miss kathryn | 05.01.02 at 03:05 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I've written a lot of you privately that left e-mail addresses just to say "hi" -- but I also wanted to add that I hope the only "cliquing" around here is from the keyboard keys. Seriously. You don't need a membership card to play along, and it's really great to see all of these new names and "faces" around these parts! *waves from sunny Florida*

¤ ¤ credit: robyn | 05.01.02 at 03:12 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Just thought I'd be part of the conversation.

¤ ¤ credit: Kevin | 05.01.02 at 03:16 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Comments make a bloggers day. First thing and last thing I do each day is check for 'em. I even like the vicious and combative ones. Blogging is a great ego-stroke; trust us, we want your comments.

With regards to the blog clique suggestion: I'm not discounting it entirely, but I think it might be an accidental impression. I tend to find other fun blogs to read by clicking on those comments that I find particularly amusing or enraging. I suspect that others do the same. So you end up with a circle of people reading and commenting on each others blogs essentially by accident.

Speak up. The worst thing that happens is a stranger that you'll never have to deal with again acts like a jerk. Write them off as a loser and move on to friendlier blogs.

¤ ¤ credit: jamese | 05.01.02 at 03:39 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I still am quiet shy about commenting, even on our own page.[though I love getting comments, they are one of the things that make my day] I never know if I am going to come off sounding like an idiot, if I am going to say something inappriopriate and offend the host or if people are going to read what I wrote and think, "wow, what a big idiot"
Though, here is different, Robyn who make people feel comfortable. thanks.

¤ ¤ credit: munin | 05.01.02 at 03:43 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Gee Robyn, you normally scare me. Does this mean I can no longer hide from you?

¤ ¤ credit: Lynn | 05.01.02 at 03:52 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I have a solemn vow to never ever, ever, ever, EVER leave comments on weblogs. And I'm not going to start now either.

¤ ¤ credit: Vaughan | 05.01.02 at 04:02 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Wow. The last word, part deux?

¤ ¤ credit: Harry | 05.01.02 at 10:30 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Just thought I'd say howdy. :)

¤ ¤ credit: Kymberlie R. McGuire | 05.01.02 at 10:48 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Robyn, I can't keep it a secret any longer. I read your blog! Phew, now I feel better.

¤ ¤ credit: gigi | 05.01.02 at 11:38 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Wait a minute. You mean I've been reading a blog all along and didn't realize it?! Relax dear! It's Palmolive!

Ok, that didn't make any sense at all.

¤ ¤ credit: Les | 05.02.02 at 07:37 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I actually was quoted in a BLOG once.. Seemed the guy thought it was cool that a biker was on his site.. Then several days later he closed the site!

I have been rather quite since then

But any time a lady in hose invites me to say Hi..

Larry The Biker

¤ ¤ credit: Larry | 05.02.02 at 12:59 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Meh. I sneak in sometimes and peer around. It's kind of weird, feeling like the New Kid in Blogland. I'm wondering if my shoes are the right shoes for blogging, y'know?

But now I've dragged in all kinds of new people (okay, three) to make my own little empire.

Then I have reason not to be shy.

Or something. Maybe I'm just making it up because I'm overcaffeinated. Anyway, I'm here.

¤ ¤ credit: VASpider | 05.03.02 at 01:33 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

WOW...I'm just writing to say WOW! That girl in the picture is HOT! Yes, yes...women are beautiful!

¤ ¤ credit: Sean | 05.03.02 at 02:03 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Yeah, I can't get anyone to post a comment on my blog. Pfft two months and eighteen comments .. not cool.

¤ ¤ credit: Dustin | 05.05.02 at 10:23 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

I read your blog daily and love it. I think I've commented...once. I either feel like I'm not part of things (that is NOT your fault, though, I'm just a dork) or I don't have anything intelligent to say. I'm a friend of Susan's in Oklahoma so I love when you write about Sonic or Classic 50's. Oh, and one of my closest friends is an RA in the Honors Dorm, so your memories of OU are also fun to read about. Anyway, now you know who I am so maybe I'll be brave and comment sometimes.

¤ ¤ credit: Miranda | 05.12.02 at 10:59 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

you know what, i appreciate this topic. i visit your blog but i've never commented before (i don't think) for the reasons stated. also there have been times when i have commented in blogs and it seemed like people were commenting to each other all around me and i was just there. i'm probably just oversensitive but when that has happened i would feel weird so i wouldn't go back and comment.

¤ ¤ credit: robin | 05.22.02 at 01:23 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

oh and like on this thread, i'm often late!!!

¤ ¤ credit: robin | 05.22.02 at 01:24 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

I like the site and what not..im trying to give this blogging thing a try...anyone have any good advice on how to set BLOG up on my website??? feel free to e-mail me at edisonx@ev1.net..id appreciate any and all advice!!

¤ ¤ credit: chris edison | 05.22.02 at 10:22 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Good topic. I often get the feeling that the blogging community is like this big party

¤ ¤ credit: C ody Clark | 06.06.02 at 11:14 PM | link--this ¤ ¤

Yeah, I always feel like when I do work up the nerve to comment I end up sounding like a groupie, or a stalker, or just plain incoherent. But let me give this a try...

Hey! You are sooooooo cool. I really identify with everything you say. I'm thinking of getting my hair done just like yours...

Hmmmm. No? How about...

I know where you live.

No, not right either. I guess I'll have to settle for:

Once yesterday spaghetti I really liked black and white frog sandwich. Super COOL!

¤ ¤ credit: shawna | 06.09.02 at 01:06 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

Love what you have to say about bloggers being shy! I just restarted a new blog, and I don't have any 'regulars' persay... but I'm sure some will form! Blogging is great and no one should be too shy to say anything!

¤ ¤ credit: Deb | 04.10.03 at 09:40 AM | link--this ¤ ¤

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